How not to take anything personally: using the 3 mindsets technique
One of the epidemic diseases secretly affecting humans is taking things personally; we take the opinion of other people and conditions in our life so personally as if they are the true reflection of our self. Right, now that you are reading this article you will definitely have your opinion about it whether good or bad. Another reader will also have a different opinion about this same article, but none of them truly reflect who the writer really is. When you do not separate your actions, ideas, and behaviors of your true self you can easily fall into an emotional roller coaster if someone expresses his/ her view about them. Taking things personally is a trap we must all avoid as much as possible.
Never complain or rejoice about the opinion of other people, both good and bad in your life. Always do your best to be who your heart tells you to be instead of worrying about the action of others towards you. Remember your dreams remain fantasies unless you take action to bring them into reality. Never get discouraged. Overcome past negative conditioning and motivate yourself to do what you want to do. I have this accident parable which illustrates my point.
An old man and his son worked a small farm, with only one horse to pull the plow. One day the horse ran away. “How terrible,” sympathized the neighbors. “What bad luck!” “Who knows whether it is bad or good luck” replied the farmer. A week later, the horse returned from the mountains, leading five wild mares into the barn. “What wonderful luck!” said the neighbors. “Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?” answered the old man. The next day the son, trying to tame one of the horses, fell and broke his leg. “How horrible. What bad luck!” “Bad luck? Good luck?” The army came to all the farms to take young men for war, but the farmer’s son was of no use to them, so he was spared. “Good? Bad?”
In this world, everyone gives their opinion based on what they understand or were taught to believe is the truth, therefore when we take what is happening in our lives personally and allow them to define us, it’s a mental poison we take into ourselves which will kill our creativity, spontaneity, inner peace, happiness, and good relationships with others. If a person tells you that you are good, respectful, clever, competent, beautiful, handsome, intelligent, interesting and so forth, they are only telling you their inner beliefs and their moral upbringing and in much the same way if a person tells you that you are stupid, boring, incompetent, impulsive, foolish, immature, they are revealed to you their own inner beliefs and close-mindedness.
Everything that happens around us and about us have their roots and has nothing to do with who we are but when do not cultivate the right mindset we rather put ourselves into the prison of fearing circumstances, especially what other people say or think about us. Let me introduce to you the three mindsets technique that can make you act freely, play guilt-free, and achieve your goals and dreams without taking things personally.
Mindset 1: I don’t need to be right all the time, when your own ego whisper to you that you have to be right or else you are worthless, simply dissolving your attachment to it and move on with your life.
Mindset 2: I don’t need the approval of others to be happy. The truth about you is that you an infinite being capable of evolving, and receiving grace, and favor which does not need popular opinion so don’t let other’s views imprison you.
Mindset 3: my value does not depend on what others say about me. When you allow others’ views to give you value they will have the power to make you valueless.